Wednesday, August 23, 2006

Relapse into Voluntary Confinement

Ah, I'm back there again. Here again...

Frickin PMS will seriously turn out to be the cause of my downfall. I feel irritated, anoyed, distant, dissatisfied on a constant basis. Well for the past couple of days anyways. There are a few identifiable things that I could attribute this unrest to but instead, let's look at it in a different way. And of course, to welcome these feelings and let them stay for as long as they need to...

Marshall Rosenberg (author of non-violent communication) looks at dissatisfaction with life in terms of needs not being met.

Which of my needs are not being met right now?

My need for love, for a stronger connection to people.
My need for safety.
My need for control.
My need for feeling conpetent and confident.

Think I shall spare you the details of my current anguish :)

What can I do for myself to meet these needs?

love - reaching out to others and have faith in my family and friends, that they will be there for me instead of assumimng that they won't understand

control - I know what needs to be done and before these things are done, the control is out of my grasp, no planning can be done before I send out the applications etc.

Competency/ confidence - Just do it. Instead of thinking and worrying a bout it and waiting for everything to be perfect before I start anything, I could just do it the best that I know how, at this time and place. Then wait...

But things need to get rolling...

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